LIFESTYLE DESIGN FOR FREEDUDES

Not Loving Yourself

In a couple of months I will be standing there again. Alone. On the beach, hearing the waves speak the language of magnificent nature. In those moments of solitude you can hear the smooth whispers of your heart and soul.

The mind goes to rest for a while. No more ego. “Do I love myself?” You’ll feel it.

There’s no mental construction that can trick you into believing things about yourself that aren’t true - and it doesn’t matter how much you have been telling that false story about yourself.

Maybe it’s your choice of work, partner or friends that you’ve been lying about unmindfully.

But the material world is so seductive, so shiny, so sparkling… What is it that you are hiding from yourself?

Are you by some standards successful? Good looking? Got the “good” job?

The smooth whisper will reveal the truth. You know that there’s something wrong with how we conduct ourselves or how we have chosen to spend our precious time when you on and on get that feeling that something is not right. You don’t know what it is maybe, but it’s there like a splinter in your mind. It’s easy to fool yourself, especially when everybody around you are playing along in the same charade of fake-ness.

All the self hate, self doubt, fear to evolve, addiction to feeling safe are not natural states of a healthy mind and body, and cannot possibly exist in a state of true self love. And then it’s not about the singular person you alone, but you as a part of this whole worldly experience.

Don’t confuse self love with the ego’s cravings for approval, power, being more and other fly-by-night accomplishments. Standing there on the beach without anyone telling you who you are, what you should do or how you should behave will provide you with that vacuum needed for the right answers to come whispering in your heart and soul.

Let’s have a moment of silence. Turn it all off and step outside for a while…